Not Your Average Counsellor

Evolution of Priorities: How and Why They Change in Relationships

You know that feeling when everything in your relationship feels just right? But then, suddenly, things start to shift, and you're left wondering why?
Well, it often comes down to evolving priorities.
In this podcast episode, I explore why our priorities shift and how this impacts our relationships, because relationships aren't static, they grow and change just like we do. Understanding these changes can help you navigate your relationship more smoothly and keep it thriving.
I’ll also:
discuss the different stages of a relationship and how our priorities shift through each phase – from the early Honeymoon Period, when everything feels new and exciting, to navigating significant life events that can test even the strongest of bonds;
share real-life stories and practical tips to help you manage these stages and life transitions. For example, I'll talk about how a couple might handle a career change, the arrival of a new baby, health challenges, or pursuing a new passion; and
chat about so much more!
Listen now to learn more about how to keep your relationship strong amidst all the evolving priorities and changes life throws your way.
I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist
If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust.
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And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Couples' Guide to Financial Harmony with Special Guest Breanna May

Ever feel like money talk in your relationship sets off a ticking time bomb? This podcast episode is all about defusing that tension and finding financial harmony with your partner.
In this episode, I'm thrilled to have Breanna May with me. She's an educator, business mentor, mindset magician, CEO, speaker, and the mastermind behind the Money Mindset Program.
Together, we dive into our personal money stories and share how we handle financial matters in our own relationships. Plus, we discuss the everyday support we offer to others dealing with similar challenges.
Here's a sneak peek at what we cover:
Breaking money taboos
Why your personal relationship with money is crucial for your financial health as a couple
Common reasons couples struggle with money and conversations around it
Practical solutions to money issues that start with the basics—not just the numbers, including:
Discovering your individual and shared values and narratives about money
Having meaningful conversations about money by thinking of it as a person – exploring how you talk about it, how you feel about it, and what you say behind its back, along with insights from your upbringing
Pinpointing what's important to you both as individuals and as a couple, then setting financial goals together
We also touch on the parallels between shame around money and sex/pleasure, especially for women
And so much more!
It's a conversation packed with insights and practical advice that will no doubt help you and your partner navigate the financial aspects of your relationship more smoothly.
I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist
To find out more about Breanna May check out her Instagram, website and sign up to her Money Mindset Waitlist here.
If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust.
If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn.
And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
 

Wedding Bells to Reality: Navigating Newlywed Challenges

You know, we often talk about the magic of weddings – the love, the excitement, the promise of forever. But what about after the confetti settles and reality kicks in? That's exactly what we're exploring in this episode.
It's all about delving into the journey from "I do" to the daily grind and the realities of day-to-day married life. In this episode, I tackle common issues like unmet expectations, communication breakdowns, the impact of stress on your relationship, as well as managing household chores and navigating major life transitions.
And just like in all my podcasts, this episode provides actionable steps you can take to strengthen your relationship. From setting realistic expectations to prioritising connection, you'll walk away with valuable insights that can transform your marriage.
Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for years, there's something in this episode for everyone.
I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist
If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust.
If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn.
And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Mastering Miscommunication: From Texting Fails to Expecting Your Partner to be a Mind Reader

Get ready to laugh, nod along, and maybe even facepalm as we tackle one of the biggest relationship roadblocks: miscommunication.
Yep, we've all been there, expecting our partner to magically read our minds or completely misinterpreting what they're trying to say. It's like a comedy of errors, but in real life!
From those confusing text exchanges to the dreaded silent treatment, I've got stories that'll have you saying, "Yep, been there!"
But hey, I'm not just here to point out how we get it wrong. Nope, I've got your back with some tried-and-true solutions. Throughout the episode, I'll be dishing out practical tips to help you overcome those communication hurdles and deepen your connection with your partner. From mastering active listening to sprinkling in a little vulnerability in your convos, and even fine-tuning your texting game, my latest episode is your playbook for relationship success.
So, what are you waiting for? Dive into my latest episode now and discover the secrets to smoother communication in your relationship.
Trust me, your future self will thank you for it!
I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist
If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust.
If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn.
And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Trust: The Unspoken Language of Relationships

You know that feeling when everything just clicks in a relationship? That's trust at work. It's the secret sauce that keeps relationships steady and strong. But here's the kicker—it's often misunderstood.
In this episode, I'll dive deep into the essence of trust, revealing its critical role not only in romantic connections, but also in friendships, family dynamics, and work relationships. I'll show you how to cultivate trust, setting the stage for stronger, more meaningful connections in every area of your life.
But that's not all. I'll also pull back the curtain on trust and expose what truly undermines it. Spoiler alert: it's not always what you expect.
While infidelity and dishonesty certainly erode trust, the real culprit is often the lack of consistency and reliability—the small, everyday things that we often overlook. From keeping promises to remembering the little details, it's these tiny acts of consistency that either build trust up or tear it down.
So, whether you're navigating trust issues or just want to improve trust in your relationships, you will want to listen to this one.
I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist
If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust.
If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn.
And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Chore Wars: What's Behind the Drama of Dishes, Laundry, and Toilet Seats?

Ever walked into your bedroom after a long day, only to be greeted by your partner's stinky jocks lounging on the floor, just inches away from the laundry basket?
Yep, been there, felt that frustration.
In this episode, I’m diving into the messy world of household chores, where laundry, leaving the toilet seat up, and dirty dishes become the epicentre of relationship drama.
As a therapist, I've had my fair share of ringside seats to the chore wars, and let me tell you, it's quite the spectacle. But here's the thing – it doesn’t have to be. That's why I'm shining a light on why these seemingly mundane tasks can explode into stress bombs and, most importantly, how to disarm them.
So, if you're tired of the chore war drama, do yourself a favour and tune in for some practical tips to help you tackle chore conflicts effectively. Because let's face it, nobody wins in the chore war game – it's all about finding that sweet spot in the middle.
Trust me, this listen is worth every minute.
I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist
If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust.
Also in this episode I mentioned the Structured App, an all-in-one day planner combining calendar, to-do list, and habit tracker into a single timeline find out more here.
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And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Change is Strange: Embracing Life's Plot Twists

When change comes knocking, do you find yourself hesitating to answer?
Hey, you're not alone!
That's why this episode is all about change – that inevitable part of life that has a knack for leaving us feeling stuck.
Listen as I take a deep dive into the psychology of change, unravelling why it can feel like such a head-scratcher. I'll chat about why we resist change, even when it could lead to some serious personal growth and resilience. And let's not forget why we often hold onto the familiar for dear life when the unknown holds so much potential.
So, tune in now for some strategies on kicking fear of change to the curb and practical tips for getting prepped, taking action, and sticking to it.
But wait, there's more! I'll also share a story about an incredible couple I had the privilege of working with and how through embracing change they found their way back to each other.
And speaking of unexpected blessings, I've got a personal story to share too. It's about a tough situation that shook up my family – one that demanded change, action, and acceptance. But you know what? That sh%t stick delivered an unexpected gift that keeps on giving to this day.
I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist
If you're interested in knowing more about #memyselfandi Mastery Program, hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer.
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Say Yes to Yourself: Jo's Path to Self-Advocacy

My latest episode features Jo, whose journey to self-advocacy is nothing short of inspiring. Despite being in her 60s and having limited experience with therapy, Jo discovered her voice and courage through participating in my ​#memyselfandi Mastery Program.​
In this episode, you'll hear Jo's personal story of growth and empowerment, where she:
Proves that it's never too late to embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation.
Bravely shares her struggles with self-advocacy, people-pleasing tendencies, and the challenges of prioritising self-care.
Learns invaluable strategies for saying no, prioritising what she needs, and re-evaluating her beliefs and values.
Develops a newfound sense of responsibility for her own wellbeing.
Discovers the resilience to navigate life's challenges with grace and confidence.
Jo's story is not just about the power of personal development; it's a reminder that personal growth knows no age limit.
Whether you're in your 20s or your 60s, Jo's journey serves as a reminder that it's never too late to prioritise your own growth and wellbeing.
I have no doubt that you'll walk away feeling inspired and empowered to embark on your own journey of self-discovery. Speaking of… doors close for my ​#memyselfandi Mastery Program​ this Friday, find out more and secure your place ​here​ before 12pm, 1 March 2024 (AWST).
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Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Mastering Control: Finding a Balance Between 'Boss Mode' and 'Chaos Mode'

Ever feel like life's a constant battle between trying to be in control and dealing with unexpected craziness?
Yes! I feel you and that’s why in this episode I’m going to unpack the whole idea of mastering control and finding some calm in the chaos.
I’ll also dive deep into something I like to call the 'Control Conundrum, why absolute control is just an illusion and how to handle the stuff that's really in your hands.
And as always, I keep it simple by giving you the tools, practical tips, and insights to help you find that sweet spot between being the boss and letting life do its thing.
Doors are NOW OPEN for my #memyselfandi Mastery Program! Access your $1000 discount if you sign up before 12pm, Tuesday 20 February 2024 (AWST).
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Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.

Feeling Unappreciated: The Art of NOT Being the Unsung Hero

In this episode, we dive into something special: a conversation with one of my #memyselfandi Mastery Program participants as she shares her journey from feeling unsupported and unappreciated to becoming empowered and deeply connected with everything she needs.
Theresa’s story is one many women can relate to…
Juggling the demands of being a young Mum while trying to balance work, marriage and family life.
And the uncomfortable feelings that come up when your priorities become out of sync.
Tune in for honest conversation and a treasure trove of insights and lessons learned as we explore how through my #memyselfandi Mastery Program, Theresa gained clarity and support and finally learnt ways to prioritise her needs without guilt.
Hear first-hand how some 18 months later Theresa’s transformation continues and how:
her relationship with her husband has blossomed into a true partnership.
she’s now a more present and patient mother.
professionally, she exudes confidence and competence.
now advocating for herself comes naturally, and she's adept at identifying and prioritising her needs.
Don't miss out on this inspiring journey of personal growth and empowerment.
I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist
Doors open for my #memyselfandi Mastery Program NEXT WEEK! Hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer.
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